With Christmas over and the New Year just around the corner I feel the need to reflect. Not sure but sometimes when you reflect things just bounce off. We shall see where this goes.
Last year around this time we were heavily engaged with kids and grandkids. My oldest had made a move to the area and this brought all our combined family together. We had several get togethers throughout the seasons of the year and it all was going fairly smooth.
The thing is as we all know with family it does not always remain smooth. Disagreements are always happening, but how you move through and past are the determining factor in maintaining. Adding exes to the mix, specifically when grandkids or children are involved create excessive drama. Adding to this the lack of communication, overreactions, non confrontational people, ones who refuse to stand up to certain types for various reasons, and you name it, causes a dissolve of relations.
What has happened since let's say July 4th? For one, lots fewer get togethers. Then after school started neediness came in and a feeling of taking advantage of situation arrived and guess what? A great dissolve. Now this is my reflection and I know there is always the opposite viewpoint. Work, their relationships, kids, living arrangements all are contributing factors so I must chose my path with it all.
We have chosen to chill, as doing anything else would be be counterproductive. To be content, not closed off from but limited engagement seems to be best in this instance. Learning from past experiences helps greatly. What is it the say about learning from history, or those that do not are doomed to repeat. I suppose this is my reflection of the past year. It was not a bad year, but a learning year actually. Lots of good mingled with the various struggles. I do believe this is what life is all about. Go, experience, live.
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