With Christmas over and the New Year just around the corner I feel the need to reflect. Not sure but sometimes when you reflect things just bounce off. We shall see where this goes.
Last year around this time we were heavily engaged with kids and grandkids. My oldest had made a move to the area and this brought all our combined family together. We had several get togethers throughout the seasons of the year and it all was going fairly smooth.
The thing is as we all know with family it does not always remain smooth. Disagreements are always happening, but how you move through and past are the determining factor in maintaining. Adding exes to the mix, specifically when grandkids or children are involved create excessive drama. Adding to this the lack of communication, overreactions, non confrontational people, ones who refuse to stand up to certain types for various reasons, and you name it, causes a dissolve of relations.
What has happened since let's say July 4th? For one, lots fewer get togethers. Then after school started neediness came in and a feeling of taking advantage of situation arrived and guess what? A great dissolve. Now this is my reflection and I know there is always the opposite viewpoint. Work, their relationships, kids, living arrangements all are contributing factors so I must chose my path with it all.
We have chosen to chill, as doing anything else would be be counterproductive. To be content, not closed off from but limited engagement seems to be best in this instance. Learning from past experiences helps greatly. What is it the say about learning from history, or those that do not are doomed to repeat. I suppose this is my reflection of the past year. It was not a bad year, but a learning year actually. Lots of good mingled with the various struggles. I do believe this is what life is all about. Go, experience, live.
Friday, December 28, 2018
Thursday, November 29, 2018
2 Plus years, wow! So much has happened.
It seems that I have gotten away from blogging. I read others through social media and such but I have kept quiet about my own life, thoughts, and concerns. So where do I restart this process from.
My life:
This is as good as anyplace to start. Nearly 2 years ago I became 'not single'. Please do not take offense Alicia, if you read this, to my usage of that phrase. Has to do with prior posts. I am very happy to be a couple. Finally having someone on the same path that I am, concerned about the same issues as I, and willing to share our life together as one. Being able to share ideas, concerns, and life together to move forward. From having 7 grandkids to now 11 combined makes for some interesting family get togethers. All the differing paths our children (from 3 to now 6) have taken, well, that is fodder for another time.
With me now fully embracing retired and disabled life I spend so much time alone, with my pets, two dogs and two cats. With all this free time you would think I would write more, yet I stopped. I believe it is due to the negativity I see in social media that I felt the need to stop being part of it. The written word from the press side of things is, in my opinion, tearing our Country and World apart. I do not watch any Network News anymore. It has become opinions over news. They, telling us what to believe, not sharing all sides equally, to allow us to try and form an educated opinion of our own. Damn, that was a mouthful!! Anyways, I rather enjoy my time alone as I can do pretty much whatever I feel. From playing the Assassins Creed Odyssey game, to watching shows on the History Channel or DIY, Animal Planet and DVR shows that Alicia and I like watching together, to walking around the house and getting little things done that need done.
My back is no better, actually worse as I knew it would get. Nerve block that eases the issues but only puts off another surgery. I deal with the pain, yes, opioids are taken but the smallest amount, and then the Lyrica. That is the one med I am totally addicted to, as missing just one dosage and you will not want to be around me. Having had the fusion in my neck has fixed the issues with my hand. I just pray it remains fixed.
As I try to keep these on the short to moderate size I feel it is necessary to end this. I will leave you with this concerning "my life". I am content and very happy with my place in time and with who is in my life. No matter the issues life is not worth fretting over but is worth living for. Happiness is from within, not from outside sources, if you want it to last. This felt good, if not for others to read, but for me to share for myself.
My life:
This is as good as anyplace to start. Nearly 2 years ago I became 'not single'. Please do not take offense Alicia, if you read this, to my usage of that phrase. Has to do with prior posts. I am very happy to be a couple. Finally having someone on the same path that I am, concerned about the same issues as I, and willing to share our life together as one. Being able to share ideas, concerns, and life together to move forward. From having 7 grandkids to now 11 combined makes for some interesting family get togethers. All the differing paths our children (from 3 to now 6) have taken, well, that is fodder for another time.
With me now fully embracing retired and disabled life I spend so much time alone, with my pets, two dogs and two cats. With all this free time you would think I would write more, yet I stopped. I believe it is due to the negativity I see in social media that I felt the need to stop being part of it. The written word from the press side of things is, in my opinion, tearing our Country and World apart. I do not watch any Network News anymore. It has become opinions over news. They, telling us what to believe, not sharing all sides equally, to allow us to try and form an educated opinion of our own. Damn, that was a mouthful!! Anyways, I rather enjoy my time alone as I can do pretty much whatever I feel. From playing the Assassins Creed Odyssey game, to watching shows on the History Channel or DIY, Animal Planet and DVR shows that Alicia and I like watching together, to walking around the house and getting little things done that need done.
My back is no better, actually worse as I knew it would get. Nerve block that eases the issues but only puts off another surgery. I deal with the pain, yes, opioids are taken but the smallest amount, and then the Lyrica. That is the one med I am totally addicted to, as missing just one dosage and you will not want to be around me. Having had the fusion in my neck has fixed the issues with my hand. I just pray it remains fixed.
As I try to keep these on the short to moderate size I feel it is necessary to end this. I will leave you with this concerning "my life". I am content and very happy with my place in time and with who is in my life. No matter the issues life is not worth fretting over but is worth living for. Happiness is from within, not from outside sources, if you want it to last. This felt good, if not for others to read, but for me to share for myself.
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