Being right or wrong.

The other day while watching a movie a friend and I had a discussion about one of the characters in the movie. I had stated, “He’s the guy that is on Entourage, you know, Ari” My friend replied that it wasn’t the same person. We spent a little time discussing this but nothing came of it. I felt that I had the guy correct, and my friend felt differently, but it was not worth any more discussion. We continued to watch the movie, having a great time and a great day.

To continue this little story though I need to tell you what I did and usually do when confronted with something that can be verified online. I checked it out and found out that I was wrrrrrrrrrrr, I was wrrrrrrrrro, I had made a mistake. So here is what I did. I sent a text to my friend discussing the matter. Here is what was said;

ME: Btw I had mistaken Paul Giamatti for Jeremy Piven. Giamatti was on Duplicity with Julia Roberts, Piven is Ari. I was mistaken.

Friend: But you do admit when u know u r wrong, I like that.

Friend: Yep… I knew that, but you were so stubborn

ME: LOL. I can b can’t I.

Friend: LOL

Me: Thanks for understanding me.

Why is this worth blogging about you may ask. I can think of several reasons. There are many times that you get into a discussion with someone and you differ on the outcome. One may be right and that means the other is wrong. How do you handle it? How many times has it led to an argument? Then once it is discovered that one is incorrect how important is your response to that? Often times there is an “I told you so” involved, or “you were wrong” mentioned.

Here is my take on why this is worth blogging about. First was that without saying a word we both agreed to disagree with each other and we let it be, as it was no big deal. Next was that I admitted to being mistaken and that is a difficult thing for many of us to do. Then there was a verification of my acknowledgement to being incorrect that was done in a very positive manner. Now take a look at the next line, telling me that I was “so stubborn” could have set me off, but I took it as funny because I was verified by the person previously. The thing is I know who I am and admit freely that I am pretty stubborn. I had to actually laugh out loud to the stubborn statement because this person does know me very well. I am so thankful that this person does understand me as it is so refreshing, being able to be me. Just as important, I understand the other person as well, so we could laugh at the whole thing.

You may be able to see other important issues from this and I welcome that. I am seeing how important it is to be walking in the same direction as others in all my relationships. Conflicts occur often but when you are on the same page as others, walking in the same direction it makes things run so much smoother. To know who you are, being free to express yourself, as well as others knowing who you are is so important. Just the same it is important for others to be who they are, expressing themselves freely as well. There is no need to take offense to others when we allow others and ourselves to be exactly who we are, and verifying them as well as being verified.